Return To You
12 sessions · £1,200
The flagship trauma programme. For men carrying something from childhood or later that still shapes how they live, love and work.
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Trauma-informed coaching for men
Recovery.
Identity.
Transformation.
Helping men move beyond trauma, addiction, shame and disconnection. Work directly with Jaymes through trauma-informed coaching designed to create lasting change.
What this work is for
For men who have been carrying too much, for too long.
MendCoaching exists to help men recover from trauma, addiction, shame, emotional pain, childhood adversity, relationship difficulties and disconnection from themselves, and to build a life that finally feels meaningful, connected and authentic.
Experience you can trust
Fifteen years walking alongside men in the rooms most people never enter.
- Worked with men in prisons
- Worked with men in recovery
- Worked with men facing homelessness
- Worked with men rebuilding relationships
- Worked with men rebuilding their lives
Meet Jaymes
“I do not coach from theory alone. I coach from lived experience, professional experience, and years of personal recovery.”
Like many of the men I work with, my own life has included significant adversity, struggle, recovery and rebuilding. My understanding of this work comes from both lived experience and over a decade working professionally with men navigating trauma, addiction and homelessness, in prisons, on the streets, and in their homes, including men who experienced childhood sexual abuse and sexual violence they had never spoken about.
MendCoaching exists because I needed this kind of work myself, and couldn’t find it. I built it for the man I used to be.
· Trauma-informed practitioner
· Counselling trained
· Former prison drug & alcohol worker
· Former Housing First practitioner
· Men’s group facilitator
· Recovery-informed approach
The flagship programme
Return to You
A structured, trauma-informed transformational journey for men who want to understand themselves more deeply and create meaningful, lasting change. The signature offering. Built around the work that actually moves the needle.
Every client gets the Coaching Companion, a private space for session prep, reflections, progress and resources between meetings.
Four ways to work together
The Addiction Programme
12 sessions · £1,200
For men whose drinking, using or compulsive behaviour has become the thing holding everything else together, and pulling it apart.
Read moreMale Survivor Coaching
Complete specialist pathway · £2,000
Specialist coaching for adult men who experienced childhood sexual abuse. We start with where you are now, not with what happened.
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per week · £100
Ongoing coaching shaped around what you bring, rather than a fixed twelve-session structure. We agree the right length together before starting.
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Book a free 30-minute callPayment plans available on the twelve-week programmes, three instalments, with the first three sessions paid upfront.
Start by understanding what you're carrying
The Cost of Survival
Many of the things men struggle with today began as ways of surviving something else. A short essay on what that costs, in relationships, work, fatherhood and recovery, and what becomes possible once survival isn't the whole story.
A private 10-15 minute reflection. No diagnosis, no score, free.
The MendCoaching difference
This is not generic life coaching.
Typical coaching
MendCoaching
Advice
Understanding root causes
Strategy & tactics
Trauma-informed support
Goal setting
Nervous system awareness
Performance focus
Emotional healing
Quick wins
Sustainable change
Theory & frameworks
Lived experience
Who I help
For men quietly carrying things they don’t often say out loud.
You do not need to have everything figured out before reaching out.
Childhood trauma
Childhood sexual abuse
Addiction recovery
Shame & low self-worth
Relationship difficulties
Feeling lost or disconnected
On the horizon
Men’s retreats. Brotherhood. Nature.
Recovery retreats, transformation weekends, and nature-based experiences for men ready to do the deeper work in the company of others. Register your interest to hear first when dates open.
Explore retreats
New retreat · Dahab, Egypt
Under the Surface
Explore. Connect. Reset.
Clearer. Calmer. Stronger. Together.
A week away from the noise of everyday life. Diving the Red Sea, desert adventure and real conversation with a small group of men. Summer 2027, exact dates to be confirmed.
You cannot dive well while breathing fast, and underwater there is no room left to worry about work or home. That’s the point: same men, a brighter tomorrow.
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Start with something free before you commit to anything.
Free resources, honest reading and a quiet first conversation with Jaymes, the easiest way to feel how this work actually lands.
The next step is a quiet one.
A free, 30-minute discovery call with Jaymes. No pressure. No script. Just a chance to see how it feels to talk.